Yesterday I had the pleasure of attending my Brother-in-Love’s wedding, yes, another Simpson’s wedding now there are 6 of us. It was an absolutely beautiful wedding! There was love in the air, not just between John-Mark and Lori-Ann but love for them just beaming through their family and friends and you knew that those who were there were those God meant to be there.
The ceremony and the reception were held at the beautiful Borghinvilla, Discover Bay, St Ann. The scene was breathtakingly amazing and caused me to really marvel at God’s handiwork shown by the firmament (Psalm 19:1) and the sea.
I absolutely love weddings however, I’ve realized that so much happens behind the scenes that you never realize when you are just a guest, or even a bridesmaid. This led me to think of my own wedding and the things I learned planning my wedding. From worrying about the rain to worrying about the venue being set up on time.
Here are 5 things I learned planning my wedding:
1. Not all grooms avoid the planning process – This is number one for me because of how significant it was. Jonathan helped so much and it was greatly appreciated because otherwise I think I would have gone crazy OR I would have just gone to the Registrar General’s Department (RGD (See previous post about marriage)). Many females have planned their weddings from start to finish with no consideration for the male, nah girl, it’s his wedding too consider that he may actually want to be involved. Get his input ask for his help, don’t force him but find ways to get him involved.
2. Things will go wrong – No matter how perfectly you plan your day it will prove Murphy’s Law to be true “Anything that can go wrong, will.” Looking back, I regret how I made a BIG deal over the little things. The reality is that most of those things went unnoticed by the guests but because we planned the day it was very obvious to us. I came very close to ruining my day because I got upset over the changing of the bridal party’s marching song, only to realize that Jonathan was surprising me with a saxophonist for my entrance because that is exactly what I wanted. Relax and just go enjoy your day.
3. Do not hold things off for later – There’s a common saying “Time waits for no man.” When it comes to planning a wedding, there is always something for you to do. Putting things off will only increase the risk of something being neglected because you get caught up doing other things.
4. Choosing Guests will not be easy – Lol, surprisingly this is one of the most difficult parts of the wedding planning process. How do I choose who gets to come? I had to make a criteria for selection then create an A, B and C list and even then I had to be praying that not everyone would be able to make it (sorry, not sorry), The reality is, there may be more people who have impacted your life than the amount you can actually afford to invite.
5. Be willing to compromise – You will eventually realize that the day is not only about you but very much about your parents too. They will have friends they want to invite and things they want to see happen, don’t shut them down. You may have been dreaming about your big day for a while but your parents have had those dreams before you have.
One thing to note is It Will Be Worth It After All! Congratulations John-Mark and Lori-Ann Simpson!! Welcome to married life.