Hey everyone, I was attempting a blog post “letter to my 16 year old self” when I realized that I didn’t believe in it partially because it’s too late for that version of me and I was probably doing it wrong (lol?).
It led me to realizing that the outcome of all the things I went through is positive.
Life is really a sequence of processes. Process being defined as a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end.
We’ve been through several processes (or seasons if you prefer that) patience process, the high school process, the break up process, the heartbreak process. For a process to be successful the steps have to be followed in the right order, you can’t simply skip a step. The Lord is the one who takes us through each process and it’s for us to trust Him and therefore by extension, trusting the process.
My letter to my 16 year old self was featuring suggestions to skip some steps, for example avoiding that boy because he’s not the one (I may have worded it differently). The trouble with that is I might not have been able to recognize the person who would be the outcome of that changed process (me). You know like when they do time travel in movies and changing one event changes everything? Mine turned out to be my time travel experience.
Trusting the process in life is important because we will want the best output. No matter how hard the process gets we better not run from it because we will not get God’s desired masterpiece. He says in Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Thinking of a potter, he has to mold the clay over and over and over until the clay looks exactly how he wants it to. The potter knows he will have to put the clay to the fire in order to remove all the unwanted water which will lead to it being strengthened and the desired shape being hardened. Without the heat the clay would fall apart! So it is for our lives, we’ll be tried by fire (hardships, struggles) in order for us to be strengthened and for the desired shape to be set.
I didn’t love myself at 16, I had self-esteem issues and I was also stupidly shy around boys I liked among other things. It took me a while to work through those issues to now be the confident woman I am today. If I were to go back in time I’d never have known which situations/processes/seasons of my life to cut in order to still be this Oprah that I am proud of today. So though I would want to cut a heart break here and a failed exam there it would not have helped me get to where I am now.
Trust the process knowing that where you are now is not where you’re always going to be. Make the changes now as you’ll be unable to do so in the future.
For the future, my aim is to be the person I needed at 16.
Until next post guys xoxo!