Hi Everyone!! This post is about sisterhood (sorry men) because of how important yet scarce it is.
In 2016 I grew increasingly concerned with the fact that we women aren’t our sister’s keepers. That year I got the idea to start a website and a movement called “My Sister’s Keeper” and I expressed it to a sister who had a similar vision to start a sisterhood, hers being called Transparensis (www.transparensismovement.com). I tried to start my website “My Sister’s Keeper”, turns out someone else had the same idea as the domain name was already taken. I recently decided to go ahead and start a blog with the same intention, this time using my name. The reason behind both movements is basically that we both had a deep interest in the unity of the female community. I look forward to seeing us sharing with, motivating, encouraging and supporting each other.
It’s important to note that the word sister in this context is not only a reference to our biological sisters but to every female. According to the Oxford dictionary a keeper is one who looks after someone or something. Synonyms for keeper are guardian, watcher, defender and protector.
The first mention of being someone’s keeper in the bible (and the first question ever asked of God) came from a murderous Cain (Genesis 4:1-15) to God when he asked “Am I my brother’s keeper” in response to the idea of accountability. Much like Cain, we murder our sisters; maybe not in a literal sense but with hatred, envy, death stares and harsh words. It’s rare that we as women stand with or even for our sisters.
If you are like me, you may have found it easier to get along with males, may because there was less drama as male friends just told it as it is and made life much easier than females would. The truth is that not every relationship with our sisters will be easy but that shouldn’t stop us from trying. It is very important to have women who you can talk to and share your thoughts with and receive wise council from. The reason for this is that though men have different perspectives, which from time to time proves to be helpful, we women face similar challenges some of which are unique to our gender and men will never understand them. We need to have a genuine love and concern for our sisters so that we can safely and freely share our experiences and struggles with each other in order to foster accountability and to receive the help and guidance that is needed. Let us look out for each other like no man can!
Here are 10 things you can do to be your sister’s keeper:
1. Love her
2. Pray for her
3. Encourage her to be a better version of herself
4. Mentor or guide her along life’s path
5. Celebrate her successes with her
6. Cry with and for her
7. Laugh with her
8. Listen to her
9. Advise her
10. Look out for her
I challenge you to be a better sister today by:
Finding a sister and help guide her in her journey. 1 Titus 2:5 mentioned that older women should teach the younger women how to be sober, to love their husbands and their children. This doesn’t come as a surprise; it’s simply a form a mentorship. Since you have been there, help a sister who coming up behind you. It’s important for us to celebrate, encourage, cry with, invest in and most of all, love each other.
Let’s talk. How can we be better sisters? Don’t be shy, drop a comment.