Growing up we’re taught to live a timeline type of life. Allowing society to dictate our steps to the ‘T’, telling us we should have our life plan by the end of high school. The thought is that everything must be calculated and planned.
The ideal plan is:
- Graduate from high school with good grades
- Get into a good college and get the degree
- Get a good job with a decent salary
- Find the perfect partner (that meets the checklist criteria) and get married
- Get the house and car
- Have children
- Live happily ever after
This “ideal” plan is a huge set of expectations that society thrusts upon us without our buy-in. We adopt it with the thought that it’s what everyone is supposed to do. I got accustomed to it and it became a way of life. The funny thing about life is that things never go planned, life doesn’t work like that!
Life might turn out this way:
- Struggle to make it through high school
- Maybe get into college and hopefully graduate
- Get a job (if you’re lucky) that you hate that has nothing to do with your major
- Struggle to pay the unfairly huge student loans
- Wonder what’s wrong with you and why you don’t have your life all figured out
- Maybe get married or be single
I thought that I should know what I wanted to do with my life before I completed high school. Imagine the disappointment when I completed Sixth form no closer to a definite decision than I was two years before. Sixth form ends and so I jump to the next step, University. I started university doing General Management Studies, when I no longer liked that I changed to accounting. My plan to be an accounting auditor changed as I grew to dislike accounts *shrug*. Finally, I switched to an Entrepreneurship major. My 3-year degree slowly but surely turned into a 5-year degree.
Was this easy? It certainly was not I mean my “timeline” was now out of whack! While playing a game as I child I had decided that I’d be married at 23. I look back at it and I laugh now but at 23, though I wasn’t the biggest fan of marriage, I remembered my plan. With no man in sight it was clear that I lost grip of my planned-out life. I wondered what was wrong with me why my life didn’t follow the ideal pattern. There was this constant feeling that I was letting myself and others down whenever things didn’t play out perfectly.
I’ve learned time and time again what it really means to trust GOD’s PLAN because He says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Placing your life plans in His hands makes sense because, He really does work everything out for your good. For your good doesn’t mean what you think is good. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
Life is unpredictable, make plans but don’t get disappointed when they don’t work out. Embrace the beauty in the unpredictability of life considering Proverbs 19:21:
Many are the plans in a person’s heart,
but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.
Though my human nature still causes me to be timid towards the uncertainty of the future I know His plans will far surpass mine and you should trust that too. You may not be where you want to be physically or regarding a certain aspect of life but just trust Him.
Prayer For You
Lord I commend each person who reads this to YOU the one with the plans, the one whose plans prevail. Remove the anxiety and the fear and help them to rest all their concerns and plans in your hands. It’s not easy when everything around us says we should be at a certain place by a certain age or time but Lord help us to be content in You, Your plans and Your perfect timing. Send peace of mind right now as a reminder to give peace and assurance that YOU see and You know and You haven’t forgotten them.
Thank You for the plans You have for us and for working things out for our good. Thank You for the lessons and testimonies that will be birthed as we learn to trust You. Give us the strength to share and help others know that You are actively working for us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Sometimes the best moments in life are the ones you can’t anticipate—you just learn how to both hold on and let go, and allow yourself to experience them, feel them, celebrate them, bloom from them. And continue forward, welcoming what comes. – Unknown