Recently I watched a bible study by Heather Lindsey on YouTube entitled “What does it mean to be a godly woman”. In the study she mentioned Abigail and the fact that she knew the importance of timing. You may be wondering who Abigail is so here’s a summary below.
Summary of 1 Samuel 25 The Story of Abigail
Abigail as the Bible describes her, was and intelligent and beautiful woman. Her husband was a wealthy man named Nabal who was pretty much mean, unfriendly and bad-tempered. David sent Ten men to Nabal in with the proper greeting and in his name asking for some food. He even mentioned that Nabal’s men who were near him were treated well. Nabal not only refused David’s request for food but he also insulted him and the men told David every word that was said. In anger David gather 400 soldiers to go with him to kill Nabal and and every man in his family.
Abigail, after hearing the entire situation, decided to send food as a gift to David without telling her husband. When she approached David, she got off her house and paid him respects that was due to a King. She spoke to David and convinced him not to kill Nabal and the men in his family. Abigail returned home to see her husband very drunk hosting a banquet befitting a King. She made a decision not to tell him anything until the next day when he was sober. When he was sober, she told him what happened and what would have happened. Nabal got a stroke and died 3 days later (and David married Abigail and they lived Happily Ever After – Read it yourself)
The Importance of Timing
Abigail did two wise things in my view. The first was acting as soon as she heard the fate of her family and she kept quiet about it. The second thing was not telling Nabal all that transpired while he was drunk, she waited until he was sober in the morning. Had she spoken to him in his drunken state, chances are, the conversation would not go anywhere. It’s always important to know when to say things.
The Importance of Timing During Anger
After reading this ( 1 Samuel 25) the scripture “…Do not let the Sun go down on you wrath” (Ephesians 4:26) came to mind and I thought of the importance of Timing during anger. We often see the solution for this scripture as staying up as long as necessary to solve the issue before bed. I don’t believe in that, in fact, I have several issues with that “solution”. It’s never wise to discuss things while your angry, you’ll say things you’ll regret or don’t mean.
Many people believe that things said in anger are often true and whilst this can be true (not always) it’s often not meant to be said. Because of this I go over the situation in my mind a few times before bringing it up. This ensures the right things are said because I was calm and collected with every part of my brain fully working. When we’re angry a part of us wants the other person to feel some amount of hurt and so we say hurtful things. Though what is said is true, we forget to speak the truth in love.
My Chosen Approach
I will not be staying up all night to talk about any issue and Jonathan shares this view. The reality is that more than likely we’ll have something to do the next day, be it work or church. I don’t think the Lord wants us staying up all night resulting in us sleeping on the job the next day. Be wise people, stay woke! The Bible says “Whatever you do, do it as unto the Lord” (Colossians 3:23) hence we should give of our best which means doing it while tired is out of the question and worse, falling asleep while on the job. Its impossible for you to stay up all night and give your best at work the next day. A better solution and the one I use, is to ensure that I deal with my anger. I do this by gaining control and composure. I deal with my anger before I start a conversation about the issue with the person who angered me.
Timing is very crucial in all that we say and do. Don’t be too quick to “vent” or talk about things that have angered you. Take some time to calm down and think logically.
Thanks for reading loves.
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